ARRANGED MARRIAGES — AN OPINION PIECE

Okay, wow! This is interesting. This topic is dear to me, that I literally have a million thoughts about, and I really don’t know where to begin. 

Let’s see! So personally, I am sort of divided when it comes to this. Because my belief system regarding arranged marriages is well structured by my personal experience and observation of the people who are close and dear to me. Having said that, I don’t believe that love (romantic love in that) should always be the priority when choosing a spouse. I believe that there are far more pressing things to consider when choosing a potential lifelong partner. 

Romantic love is in most cases short term, and it will reach a time when it won’t be enough. It won’t just cut it! I mean why do you think our generation is recording the highest numbers of divorce filings than ever before. I mean where did we all go wrong? What are we missing in this unbelievable and ludicrous fiasco?

A famous saying goes “romance dies when children come!". As sad as that may sound, it is mostly true. Life as we know it has a lot of pre-requisites for mere continual survival let alone for it to be fruitful and joyful. When you talk of a family, where children are involved, in the modern-day and age love alone cannot suffice the stability, prosperity, and survival requirements of the family members. A stable family requires financial stability. A stable family requires parental wisdom. A stable family requires protection. All that cannot be merely provided by romantic love alone. 

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I personally believe the marriage decision should have been critically thought through. The decision-making process should take a multidimensional and strategic approach. So if it becomes necessary for there to be an arranged marriage, then be it! As long as one meets the targeted attributes of a near-perfect family in their eyes. 

STABILITY > COMPATIBILITY > ROMANCE